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You’re not alone.
The doubts, feeling overwhelmed, burnout and worrying if you’re “good enough.” We’ve been there. But now we’re here to share stories, lessons, helpful tips and tools to help all of us chart a new path.
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GUIDE
Want to run your own BFF board meeting?
This tradition helped my friends and I build workout routines, finish drafting a book, heal relationships with family and much more. Turns out, the difference between just saying the goal and getting it done were in a few tweaks.
This guide will walk you through how we set up our BFF Board Meetings, questions to ask each other and what made the difference in us actually following through so you can make the same leap. (And the guide has a bonus for those who don’t currently have besties to Board Meeting with so you can get started solo if needed!)
For the people pleaser, perfectionist, overachiever eldest daughter who’s ready to trade hustling to prove herself for more peace, confidence and calm
Because let’s be honest, being everything for everybody, caring what other people think, anxious attachment and hustle culture is really exhausting.
We get it.
Recent Posts
The three step process to get whatever you want in life
Learn the three-step framework to get anything you want in life and discover why most ambitious women struggle with step three and how to master the art of trusting the process while still taking meaningful action toward your goals.
Getting Back to the Basics
I've been thinking a lot lately about the steps that are the most dependable in terms of helping us shift our mindset, actually do what we say we're going to do and begin to feel differently about parts of our lives.
The relationship skill most of us skip over that makes a huge difference
Do you ever call a friend to talk about a bad day and really just need to vent? But when you get on the phone and start talking they immediately jump in to provide suggestions. We’re going to talk about why this hurts and what relationship skill can be a game changer for deeper connection and more healing.
The thing nobody tells you about how to feel like you’ve “done enough”
Why do I feel empty after I’ve already achieving a lot? In this article, we’re going to stop the cycle of never feeling good enough by understanding how our ambition and mindset can help or hurt our ability to feel satisfied long term. A must read for perfectionists and overachievers.
How to unlearn limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in life
When did you learn that you can't be yourself? When did you learn that asking for consistent effort from someone your dating is “too much”? What if it’s time to identify and unlearn the limiting beliefs keeping you stuck in life, rather than learning something new? Discover practical steps to transform your mindset, build confidence, and create lasting change in relationships, career, and personal growth.
Want to stop being so hard on yourself?
We've been told that being hard on ourselves is somehow productive. The reality? That inner critic is actually sabotaging our progress and keeping us stuck in cycles of shame and inaction. Which is why today we're diving into how to finally silence that harsh inner voice and replace it with something that actually helps us grow.
Why life feels hard even when you're doing everything right (and how to use that to your advantage)
Frustrated with the feeling that you’re doing everything “right” and yet life is still dealing you punches? We’re going to unpack the truth behind why life feels hard and how to use these truths to jumpstart your own growth and shift your perspective for more confidence and inner peace.
What nobody tells you about being afraid of being alone
If you feel like you’re living life scared of rejection, scared of being alone or scared of putting yourself out there, it’s easy to feel stuck, like you’re holding yourself back. In this article, we’re going to talk about how to use those fears to get clear on what you need to do next and unpacking practical strategies to tackle these blocks.
Why taking breaks isn't selfish: how to listen to your body as a ambitious woman
Learn why taking breaks isn't selfish and discover practical strategies for listening to your body's signals for rest. Essential guidance for eldest daughters struggling with guilt around self-care and the importance of honoring your need for rest without compromising your responsibilities.
Why being delusional might be the confidence boost you need
Discover why being delusional about yourself might be the confidence boost you need. Learn how to embrace delusion, break free from limiting beliefs, and build unshakeable self-confidence through practical strategies that actually work.
How to embrace uncertainty and stop needing to know what happens next
Learn how to embrace uncertainty and stop needing to control every outcome. We’re unpacking where the fear around uncertainty comes from and how overcoming it can be the key to meaningful relationships, career growth, and personal fulfillment. Expert advice for eldest daughters ready to trust themselves more.
What to do if you feel like you can’t depend on other people
Have you often felt the pressure of handling everything alone? You're not alone in this journey! In our latest piece, we explore the familiar struggles faced by eldest daughters and why you might feel like the only one stepping up. Discover insights into breaking the cycle of overfunctioning and learn how to foster healthier relationships by trusting others. We’re excited to share practical tips on managing your emotions and encouraging those around you to grow too. Join us as we navigate these complexities together and find peace in letting go.
How to identify where your priorities lie when everything feels important
If you've been asking yourself, "where do my priorities lie?" or "what should my priorities be?" then this article is for you. Learn how to identify your real priorities when everything feels important and the mindset shift that helps you align your time and energy with what actually matters most in your life plus what productivity tools are best to help you focus on your priorities.
How to overcome fear of rejection
Learn how to overcome fear of rejection in dating and career as an eldest daughter. Discover practical strategies to build rejection resilience, reframe rejection as information, and use rejection as a tool for clarity and growth. Transform your relationship with rejection from something that stops you to something that propels you forward.
Why you have to feel your feelings
Emotions might be intense but they serve a purpose. Too many eldest daughters (maybe you?) are trying to talk themselves out of being anxious, upset or sad about something in their life, not realizing that suppressing our feelings makes everything harder. This article covers why you need to feel your feelings and the practical of “how” to start feeling your feelings if you’ve been pushing them away as long as you can remember.
Understanding fault vs responsibility: why taking ownership without blame changes everything
Learn the crucial difference between fault and responsibility. Discover why taking ownership without self-blame is the key to emotional freedom and healthier relationships. Stop the spiral of assuming everything is your fault.
How to be happy single: finding fulfillment without waiting for a relationship
If you feel frustrated with being single because it feels like you’re living a lesser version of the life you could have and it makes you anxious to find your person, this article is for you. We’re talking what it actually takes to still feel fulfilled while single, without having to convince yourself that you don’t want a relationship. Because it’s okay to want a partner but we have to find a way to be happy in the meantime.
What to do when self-doubt kicks in
Discover why your brain fights change and learn practical strategies to work with resistance instead of against it. Transform self-doubt into a sign you're on the right track toward personal growth and lasting change.
Why trying to read his mind is sabotaging your dating life
Every woman at some point has tried to read the mind of the guy she’s dating, to know what he’s thinking. But this strategy sends you careening in the wrong direction, anchoring your actions on his desires versus your truth. Let’s talk about how to avoid this pitfall.
What is Eldest Daughter Syndrome?
Being the eldest daughter comes with its own unique set of challenges and rewards. At Eldest & Co, we’re literally founded to explore the traits often seen in eldest daughters, the pressures they face, and the strengths they develop along the way and that starts with understanding Eldest Daughter Syndrome to begin with
QUIZ
Which type of eldest daughter are you?
Regardless of whether you were actually born first, you’re probably here because the eldest daughter archetype feels so friggin’ real to you.
But here at Eldest & Co., we’ve come to realize that there’s actually a couple of different types of eldest daughters and that figuring out which one you are can be key to figuring out how to unlock your next big phase of growth!
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A game changer for finally releasing those stubborn limiting beliefs
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Your simple plan to stop living to please.
Whether you’re on day 1 or 1000 of your recovering “good girl” era, the no brainer place to start is my mini-course, “Debunking the Need to Please”.
Every day for the next 6 days, I’ll drop a juicy email in your inbox with some of my biggest aha’s, some of the practices that have helped me and the important reminders, specifically for the overachiever type, to help you really understand what it’s going to take to tackle that people pleasing and stop caring so much what other people think. The best part, it’s totally free.
WHAT OTHER GIRLIES SAY
“Samantha was instrumental in helping me change my thoughts about myself and my self-worth. These are techniques that I'll be using for a long, long time!”

