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Which type of eldest daughter are you?

Regardless of whether you were actually born first, you’re probably here because the eldest daughter archetype feels so friggin’ real to you.

But here at Eldest & Co., we’ve come to realize that there’s actually a couple of different types of eldest daughters and that figuring out which one you are can be key to figuring out how to unlock your next big phase of growth!

For the people pleaser, perfectionist, overachiever eldest daughter who’s ready to trade hustling to prove herself for more peace, confidence and calm

Because let’s be honest, being everything for everybody, caring what other people think, anxious attachment and hustle culture is really exhausting.

We get it.

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If you’ve ever felt totally thrown off by something someone said or did and it literally would not leave you alone, then girl, is this one for you. There is nothing like the frustration that comes from being upset about something, far more and far longer than you logically know makes sense. It just keeps bugging you. Being triggered is something that everyone experiences. But here’s the secret: those triggers can actually be your biggest clues for self-discovery.

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How to build confidence from scratch (Part 2)

How to be more confident is a question millions of people ask themselves each year. But it can be frustrating to start when confidence is low - you want to feel better about yourself but don’t know how to start feeling better from scratch? In this piece, I’m diving into how to define confidence, why many women struggle to achieve it and some ways to start from the ground up.

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This is why I've been quiet…

I’ve felt off and it made me feel like a fraud to admit it. There's a funny thing that happens when your job becomes “Confidence Coach.” You spend your working hours telling people that their difficult feelings are normal and that we need to honor everything that we're experiencing (because what we resist persists y'all).

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31 lessons on my 31st birthday

In celebration of my birthday, I thought it’d be fun to collect some of the lessons I’ve learned in the last year, since I turned 30. Everytime I do these sort of reflections I’m always so encouraged by how far I’ve come in the period of time, that we’re often so quick to skim over and ignore in the motivation to move on to the next. So for now, I bring to you, on the occasion of my 31st birthday, 31 things I’ve learned this year…

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Why does it feel so hard to accept help?

It’d be nice if it was as simple as “stop doing so much” and “start asking for help more” but I have lived experience totally understand that when you’ve been an overachiever for decades, asking for help can be really friggin’ hard. Why? Because it triggers all sorts of stories about our value, what we bring to the table and much more.

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Worried you’re not “good enough”? Here’s what you need to understand

When something goes wrong in your life do you worry that it's may be because you aren't good enough? Do you often evaluate yourself against other people in your life and feel like you don’t measure up?This worry about not being “good enough” is one of the most common complaints I hear from overachievers, people pleasers and perfectionists and it makes sense because those behaviors are related to this fear.

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Journal prompts for when you’re feeling stuck

It’s an experience everybody goes through at some point in life - things were working for a while and somewhere along the way, almost without you noticing, you transitioned into a different period. This period, where you feel stuck. So I wanted to give you a little free resource if you’re feeling in this “stuck” mode - some great journal prompts to use to work through the stuck.

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3 things I do to deal with self-doubt

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What is anxious attachment and where does it come from?

What good is knowing you’re anxiously attached if you have nothing to do with that information? In this post we’re diving into what is anxious attachment, where anxious attachment comes from and the good side of this often maligned attachment style. There is enormous value (self-awareness, tools and the potential for real healing) in understanding what your attachment style means for you, in your dating life and beyond.

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You know what your patterns are, you know what the fears are but how do you actually go about shifting those subconscious beliefs that dictate how we act when we’re triggered or emotional?! Turns out, it’s not about understanding as much as it’s releasing emotions from when you picked them up in the first place. There’s so many tools out there that claim to do this, but honestly, this is the one I keep coming back to. It doesn’t hurt that it can fit in pretty much anybody’s budget. (Plus the code SAMANTHA gets you an extra 15% off!)

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