WISE ADVICE SINCE 1992You’re not alone.
The doubts, feeling overwhelmed, burnout and worrying if you’re “good enough.” We’ve been there. But now we’re here to share stories, lessons, helpful tips and tools to help all of us chart a new path.
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GUIDE
Want to run your own BFF board meeting?
This tradition helped my friends and I build workout routines, finish drafting a book, heal relationships with family and much more. Turns out, the difference between just saying the goal and getting it done were in a few tweaks.
This guide will walk you through how we set up our BFF Board Meetings, questions to ask each other and what made the difference in us actually following through so you can make the same leap. (And the guide has a bonus for those who don’t currently have besties to Board Meeting with so you can get started solo if needed!)
For the people pleaser, perfectionist, overachiever eldest daughter who’s ready to trade hustling to prove herself for more peace, confidence and calm
Because let’s be honest, being everything for everybody, caring what other people think, anxious attachment and hustle culture is really exhausting.
We get it.
Recent Posts
Why are dating apps so disappointing? Battling the emotional volatility of online dating
Struggling with the emotional highs and lows of online dating? I have strong opinions on what’s going on in that experience of feeling offended by the likes you’re getting on the apps and wanting to give up. And I want to make it a little easier!
Why a relationship may not make you feel safe and loved
When talking with clients or even just those who comment on my content on social media, there is one phrase or opinion that I probably hear more than anything else. When I ask the question, what do you think you’ll get to feel when you’re in a relationship?
The answer: “to feel safe and loved.”
Are you playing it safe?
This is a question I ask myself, and often clients, fairly regularly. But before we dive in too deep on it, let's clarify one thing: there's a helpful and unhelpful kind of safe. The helpful kind of safe is more like “supported.”
The lie we’ve been told about feeling better about yourself
But here's the thing we need to talk about: the idea that transformation requires some external magic - whether that's the perfect partner, the right opportunity, or even the ideal self-help program - is actually what's keeping you stuck. Which is why today we're diving into why you already have everything you need to create the confidence, dating success, and career fulfillment you're craving, with a little fairytale storytelling along the way!
What to do if you’re overthinking your text messages
When you're in the early stages of dating (we're talking dates 1-5), do you find yourself constantly analyzing the text conversation, thinking in great detail on the right thing to say, how frequently to text, etc.?
Dating is not a test to pass
Dating is not a test to pass. Why does dating seem to be such a kryptonite for the confidence of high-achieving women?
Dating advice to stop giving and what to say instead
Nobody wants to give bad relationship advice but sometimes, we can be speaking from our current feelings - good or bad. So we're going to do a quick recap of dating and relationship advice to stop giving and what to say instead.
The stigma of solo
While solo travel can help you get comfortable being alone, its most powerful benefit is learning to be comfortable with being challenged. And in this way, my philosophy toward solo travel and dating converge.
Mindfulness: how to find more happiness and control in life
Dating is emotional. Sometimes we react to things that trigger us in ways that we aren’t the proudest of. Finding ways to be mindful, through regular practices or using tools in the moment, is a great way to increase that space between the trigger and the response so we can make better decisions.
To the woman who feels like love might not be in the cards for her...
I've asked myself, "Are my standards too high?" and "Did they just get lucky?" I've compared myself to friends, wondering what was different about them that maybe I should strive more to be. I wondered if maybe it was my tactics…
Taking a break from dating? You need to read this.
It's natural to sometimes take a break from your dating life. But some breaks are more helpful than others. Click to read a some dating advice for single women on the types of dating breaks and how to make sure you're getting the most out of your time away from dating.
My top books for self-development
Whether or not you’re into self help books, there are always books out there that can give you new perspective and force you learn something about yourself. I collected a list of my favorites for self-development, I wanted to share with you…
QUIZWhich type of eldest daughter are you?
Regardless of whether you were actually born first, you’re probably here because the eldest daughter archetype feels so friggin’ real to you.
But here at Eldest & Co., we’ve come to realize that there’s actually a couple of different types of eldest daughters and that figuring out which one you are can be key to figuring out how to unlock your next big phase of growth!
FEATURED TOOLA game changer for finally releasing those stubborn limiting beliefs
You know what your patterns are, you know what the fears are but how do you actually go about shifting those subconscious beliefs that dictate how we act when we’re triggered or emotional?! Turns out, it’s not about understanding as much as it’s releasing emotions from when you picked them up in the first place. There’s so many tools out there that claim to do this, but honestly, this is the one I keep coming back to. It doesn’t hurt that it can fit in pretty much anybody’s budget. (Plus the code SAMANTHA gets you an extra 15% off!)
Your simple plan to stop living to please.
Whether you’re on day 1 or 1000 of your recovering “good girl” era, the no brainer place to start is my mini-course, “Debunking the Need to Please”.
Every day for the next 6 days, I’ll drop a juicy email in your inbox with some of my biggest aha’s, some of the practices that have helped me and the important reminders, specifically for the overachiever type, to help you really understand what it’s going to take to tackle that people pleasing and stop caring so much what other people think. The best part, it’s totally free.
WHAT OTHER GIRLIES SAY
“Samantha was instrumental in helping me change my thoughts about myself and my self-worth. These are techniques that I'll be using for a long, long time!”
