What good is knowing you’re anxiously attached if you have nothing to do with that information? In this post we’re diving into what triggers anxious attachment and how to heal it. Understanding what our body is doing in moments where we are triggered by anxious attachment is the key to understanding how to shift is so you can more effectively form strong healthy relationships, in dating and beyond.

What good is knowing you’re anxiously attached if you have nothing to do with that information? In this post we’re diving into what is anxious attachment, where anxious attachment comes from and the good side of this often maligned attachment style. There is enormous value (self-awareness, tools and the potential for real healing) in understanding what your attachment style means for you, in your dating life and beyond.

if you have noticed that you struggle to make decisions on your own, you often doubt or second guess your decisions after you’ve made them and you’re not sure your assessment of situations is always accurate, it may be a sign that you struggle with self-trust.

Struggling with the emotional highs and lows of online dating? I have strong opinions on what’s going on in that experience of feeling offended by the likes you’re getting on the apps and wanting to give up. And I want to make it a little easier!

When talking with clients or even just those who comment on my content on social media, there is one phrase or opinion that I probably hear more than anything else. When I ask the question, what do you think you’ll get to feel when you’re in a relationship?

The answer: “to feel safe and loved.”

In my mid-20s, I was deep in overachiever mode and was constantly in pursuit of feeling like I was doing the right thing. I wanted to get the promotion, be a girlboss and make more money. But at the same time, I was also trying to figure out the transition of my friendships from college into adulthood. How to date, when my experience at the time was a lot of lukewarm guys and situationships.

The more I’ve unpacked why I was certain patterns in adulthood that was hurting my confidence, my dating life, friendships and more, the more I understood that many of them came back to this same truth...

Being the “good girl” had fundamentally shaped who I was as a person and not always for the better.

So for all of you “good girls” out there, I think it’s time we spend a moment unpacking what are some of the things we learn being a “good girl” growing up that aren’t helping us feel good as adults (and what to do about it).

Your mindset is one of the most basic and fundamental dictators on how we show up in our lives. Does a good mindset directly lead to being fulfilled and/or successful? Can you be successful with a bad mindset? What about fulfilled? And how do you tell when you need help figuring it all out?

The number one sign that you care too much what other people think is if you spend a ton of time trying to predict what they’re thinking and feeling. In short, trying to read minds. Now before you click away, you might be thinking - “uh, yeah, stating the obvious, if I care what other people think, I spend time trying to figure out what they think.”

And there, my friend, is the issue.

If you hear all this talk about why boundaries are important but want to really understand what it means to set a boundary and what might happen when you start communicating boundaries in your friendships, relationships and work life, this post is for you.

Do you wonder whether journaling can help mental health? This will talk through why it’s so beneficial if you struggle with overthinking, anxiety and people pleasing and detail the actual journal prompts a mindset and confidence coach uses for her own reflection (and why they’ll help you move towards more confidence).

If you want access to the network of free stuff, rewards and benefits, it all comes back to cultivating your ability to ask for what you want. Getting over your fears around rejection or what people will think is the key to more confident, a more luxe life and more ease day-to-day

I’ve been thinking a lot over the past few weeks about my business, my lifestyle, what I want for myself long term. And I will admit that there were a solid weeks at least where I was considering shutting this business down and starting from scratch. But I realized I’d be doing y’all a disservice if I wasn’t open about what’s been going on in my head as I’ve navigated the last 9 months and the biggest learning I’m working through personally because I know that you probably need to hear it as much as I did.

Society puts enormous pressure around our thirtieth birthday. Expectations around getting married before thirty or what you should be earning by thirty can be debilitating. I’m breaking down on my thoughts on the deadline and what to do about it.

Because we cannot control the entire world around us, in order to be successful (i.e. have the lifestyle, love, income, schedule, etc. that we desire) we have to learn how to work WITH a world that we do not control, not struggle AGAINST it. So how do you get the world do what you want it to do?

Unpacking the common reasons why you might be being overlooked for promotions, dates and generally not getting the attention you desire. If you are tired of being the good girl, helper, dependable one but don’t know what you’re doing wrong to be so invisible to your coworkers and men, read this to figure out how to get people to pay attention to you more.

If you are an overachiever that’s tired of feeling burnt out and exhausted, you need to understand that the way to stop people pleasing and how to find a partner who will carry his half of the bargain is in looking at the danger of overacheiving.

This is a question I ask myself, and often clients, fairly regularly. But before we dive in too deep on it, let's clarify one thing: there's a helpful and unhelpful kind of safe. The helpful kind of safe is more like “supported.”

Do you feel like you're constantly on a treadmill in terms of working toward the life you want? Like the to-do list never ends and just when you work through one piece of self-doubt another one pops up?

Do you ever call a friend to talk about a bad day and really just need to vent? But when you get on the phone and start talking they immediately jump in to provide suggestions. It's one of the worst feelings, when you really just need someone to listen and tell you it's going to be okay.