Actually shift your limiting beliefswithout spending your life savings on therapy.
Coming from a girl who loves therapy but was tired of hearing “regulate your nervous system,” “reprogram your limiting beliefs” and “love yourself” but no instructions or tools to get there.
the problemIf you’re anything like I was, you’ve spent years listening to podcasts, journaling, reading self-development books, and talking it all out in therapy — and yet the same patterns keep showing up.
You’re self-aware enough to know all your patterns and know all the terminology. But it’s frustrating to spend all this time, money and energy investing in yourself and still feel your anxious attachment explode when a guy stops texting you or know that you don’t speak up about your feelings to your friends because you’re still worried about being a burden.
Like what gives?
When things changed...I was tired of feeling stuck
A few years ago, I hit a wall.
I had done so much work on myself but I’d just gotten out of my fourth situationship, my career was unfulfilling and I was still catching myself people pleasing after years of traditional therapy.
I listened to a podcast interview with Lacy (the To Be Magnetic® founder) on one of my favorite podcasts and was weeping twenty minutes in because she was describing how stuck I felt. I signed up for TBM the next day.
I didn’t join because I wanted a “manifestation” course. I joined because it was clear their resources weren’t surface level. They addressed the real neuroscience of how our brains and bodies can hold us back.
That leap of faith changed everything.
Why I recommend To Be Magnetic
I founded Eldest & Co. to help eldest daughters build confidence and achieve their goals without icky hustle culture and raging anxiety. It would have been completely normal for me to create my own meditations or journal or course covering a lot of the same topics that TBM does. But honestly, the amount of work and detail and scientific rigor that has gone into the program, which I have personally benefited from as I’ve used it over the last 5 years…
I just knew that nobody will do it quite at the level that they do.
So rather than giving you the best that I could create myself, I don’t hesitate for a second to direct this community to a resource I wholly stand behind so you can have the absolute best support.
A note from me (because transparency is cool!)
TBM gave me a 15% off code for the Eldest & Co audience (use SAMANTHA at checkout) and as an affiliate, I may earn a small commission if you decide to join through my link.
But here’s the truth: I only share tools I personally use, pay for, and genuinely love. TBM has been a major part of my own healing and growth and I happily pay full price for my subscription 5 years running. I don’t work for them, I’m actually a passionate member.
My favorite To Be Magnetic resources
Guided “Deep Imaginings” Feeling triggered? Not sure if this is a red flag or an opportunity for growth? Need clarity about what you want next? Ready to unwire an old belief? “Deep Imaginings” become your go to resources - just pop the airpods in and feel a complete shift in 15-30 minutes.
WorkshopsOne year you’re focused on getting out of a situationship and finally attracting in a healthy partner, a few months later your focus is getting over that six figure income mark. The built in workshops help you navigate the huge volume of resources to serve as a roadmap to growth, depending on what you’re most focused on right now.
PodcastSometimes the most powerful thing you can have is proof of what’s possible. Their podcast features subject-focused episodes but also interviews with real women who have successfully manifested big things which can be such powerful inspiration of what’s possible for you.
To Be Magnetic has the resources, you have the big dreams. But if you’re anything like most of us, a few doubts might be creeping in…
“I barely have time as it is…”
How likely is it that feeling bad about yourself, self-sabotage, or seeking comfort rather than taking the steps that matter is slowing down your journey to get what you want? You feel like you don’t have time because your nervous system, mindset and limiting beliefs are holding you back. Actually spending the time upfront to unlock these things can give you exponentially more time back when it literally changes how you make decisions from a place of self-worth rather than self-doubt.
“Meditating hasn’t worked for me in the past…”
Girl, same. I stuck with it for 3 months in 2020 and never went back. But these aren’t just a “clear your mind and relax” type of meditations. These are guided, with prompts and directions to follow that will help you call up beliefs or memories or body sensations and help you process them in a different way than you have ever had before. I’ve done EMDR with my therapist and the TBM “Deep Imaginings” are like a mini-version of that method, but available in a very accessible, affordable format.
“Does it actually work?”
Does working with a physical trainer work? Does going to therapy work? Does having a recipe work? It all depends on whether you take the tools you’re given and use them. If feeling differently is a priority for you, the chances are that you’ll dig in deeply and before long start to feel momentum and want to keep going. If you just dip a toe in, then there’s much more risk of you feeling “meh” about it. But I’m guessing you’ve done that with things in the past and know it’s a disservice to you. The program has helped me get over money blocks, communicate more confidently on dates, get clear on what I wanted in a partner, manifest said partner, clear old wounds around family dynamics and much more. You can go check out their website or podcast to hear a bunch of testimonials on how it’s worked for other people. The rest is up to you.
“What if I need more one-on-one support?”
One on one is beautiful. I coached clients one on one for over a year and it can be powerful. But here’s the problem with one on one - due to the personalization, the prices tend to be higher and the time frame shorter. It puts a ton of pressure on you to be all in during that period and for you to see change rapidly. It can happen, sure, but on things like confidence, mindset, and anxious attachment, they’re all related to our nervous system which takes time to rewire. Like we’re talking months to years. Most of us can’t afford to be in a one on one context for that length of time and life goes in seasons of how focused you are on healing. For me, I think the baseline should be a resources you have access to all the time (and can afford all the time) and then be able to add one on one as needed, like a beautiful cherry on top. The upside is that you get to develop your own self-trust by guiding yourself through the program as well. It’s a win-win.
“Does it actually work?”
Does working with a physical trainer work? Does going to therapy work? Does having a recipe work? It all depends on whether you take the tools you’re given and use them. If feeling differently is a priority for you, the chances are that you’ll dig in deeply and before long start to feel momentum and want to keep going. If you just dip a toe in, then there’s much more risk of you feeling “meh” about it. But I’m guessing you’ve done that with things in the past and know it’s a disservice to you. The program has helped me get over money blocks, communicate more confidently on dates, get clear on what I wanted in a partner, manifest said partner, clear old wounds around family dynamics and much more. You can go check out their website or podcast to hear a bunch of testimonials on how it’s worked for other people. The rest is up to you.
ask yourself...IS WHAT YOU’RE CURRENTLY DOING WORKING?
Look, nobody’s forcing you to join. You can keep going it on your own. But what’s the chance that the piecemeal, bouncing around, figure it out as you go stuff you’ve been trying is going to yield a different result. How many more months are you going to spend feeling lost when you could start feeling differently?
Feeling differently requires taking a risk. But a risk on a proven program, with thousands of happy members and testimonials. Trying a new foundation from the Sephora sale is probably a bigger risk.
(Plus my promo code, SAMANTHA, gets you a better discount on a monthly or annual plan than standard Sephora members get on the sale, so….)
THE BEST VALUE
Get your first year of To Be Magnetic (for 15% off using the code SAMANTHA) and have unlimited access to Deep Imaginings, workshops, journal prompts and content to support your journey.
TWO WAYS TO GET STARTED
SPREAD IT OUT
Spread the payments out monthly, still with that 15% off using the code SAMANTHA, but lock in your unlimited access to Deep Imaginings, workshops, journal prompts and content to support your journey for the first year.
Will there ever be a right time?
There will always be a busy work period, the holidays, a trip coming up or your friend’s wedding. These things can keep you stuck exactly where you are as long as you let them.
Or you invest in yourself and watch the time you make by not chasing guys that don’t like you to external approval, the money you have to spend once you start asking for what your worth and the confidence you have when you’re no longer plagued by self-doubt. That life starts as soon as you make it.